My Big Struggle In My Church

I am an advocate for being submissive to my leader. At one time, I served as Armorbearer to my Pastor for over 5 years. I loved what I did and seldom felt as fulfilled in ministry as when I am serving God by serving my Pastor. I knew that this was God's appointment for me. My Pastor was also in agreement with this. My problem was, I often felt that I was not being allowed to fully reach my potential as an AB to my Pastor.

However, I felt very much that some of the hesitation was because my Pastor's spouse, did not fully understand the nature of our relationship in the spirit and in service and discouraged him in fully utilizing my skills.

In part, my Pastor may not have fully understood what being an armorbearer really means. Several different ministers had come to our church to speak and by the directive of the spirit had recognized and affirmed our armorbearer/leader relationship but that was never seem to open my Pastor's understanding.

I am not married, have no children or other responsibilities of that sort so I am more readily available to serve now than I will ever again be and I do not want this wonderful opportunity to minister to be hindered through lack of knowledge and understanding of the ministry itself. I truly feel after much prayer that this was the root of the problem. What are your suggestions to help eliminate the jealousy from future spouses?